Bullying is on the radar for Mental Health Awareness Month. An estimated 41% of children in South African experience some sort of bullying during their school career. This highlights the need for greater public awareness and responsiveness given the high level of violence experienced at SA schools.
Shouqat Mugjenker, Mental Health Portfolio Manager at Pharma Dynamics says bullying has far-reaching mental health effects, which many carry into adulthood. Bullying is a major societal problem globally and in South Africa,
“By the time we’re adults, we are generally expected to have gotten over it, but the impact can be serious and last a lifetime.
“In South Africa an estimated 41% of children are bullied at school in some shape or form, which can increase the risk of depressive disorders and the need for psychiatric treatment later in life.
“We know that children who are bullied often suffer from low self-esteem, poor academic performance, depression and an increased risk for suicide, but up until now very little was known about the long-term psychological impact on adults who were victims of bullying in their youth.”
Recently, a series of studies have been published on the subject. They found that victims’ health, relationships and even economic status may be at risk, well into middle age.
One study, that was conducted by Kings College in London, surveyed more than 18 000 children born in the same week from the age of 7 to 50 years. The study attempted to determine the impact of bullying over a period of 40 years. They found that victims of bullying had more psychological stress. They were at a higher risk of depression, suicidal thoughts and anxiety disorders throughout their adult life when compared to those that weren’t exposed to it. Many victims also reported poor health, along with poor cognitive functioning.
Another Finnish study, surveyed 5 000 children, as well as their parents and teachers, from the time they were 8 to 29 years of age. They found that 20% that were bullied (as children) had a mental health problem that needed medical treatment into young adulthood.
Mugjenker points out that bullying could also alter the physical structure of a child’s brain. This further heightens the risk of mental illness.
“After studying questionnaires and brain scans from 600 young people between the ages of 14 and 19 from different countries in Europe, researchers from Kings College found that more than 30 participants had experienced chronic bullying. They then compared the data with those who had not been bullied.
Their analysis showed that chronic bullying was linked to heightened levels of anxiety, including changes in brain volume. Especially pertaining to the parts of the brain called the caudate and putamen. These play an important role in how the brain learns and processes memories. The caudate uses information from past experiences to help influence future actions and decisions. The putamen regulates movements and affects learning.”
He says, these findings shed additional light on just how damaging bullying can be.
“In a country such as ours where extreme levels of violence and bullying among youth is an everyday occurrence, much more needs to be done to prevent this type of behaviour. Nowadays bullying is also not just limited to the classroom, but has extended to cyberbullying. This includes any type of bullying performed via cellphones, social media or the internet. These channels allow bullies to harass victims anonymously, whenever they want to, without fear of being caught.”
Mugjenker notes that one of the ways bullying behaviour can be stopped is if parents get more involved.
What does bullying behaviour look like?
There are many behaviours that may look like bullying. They require different approaches, therefore it is important to understand exactly what bullying is.
In short, it is a deliberate attempt to repeatedly hurt someone over an extended period. The bully often chooses someone he/she deems vulnerable in order to place him/her in a position of power.
Bully behaviour can manifest in physical abuse or verbal abuse. Additionally, relational bullying, such as excluding the victim, spreading rumours or getting others to hurt the victim. Cyberbullying is another common form, which includes sending hurtful messages or images via the internet or cellphone.
Many children feel too ashamed to admit they’re being bullied, but they do give clues. The following could all be signs that your child has fallen victim to a bully:
- refusing to want to go to school
- avoiding class
- clamming up when you try to discuss school
- asking for a change in routine (dropping off, picking up from school),
- not wanting to participate in school activities or extra-murals,
- complaints of headaches, stomach cramps or nausea,
- a drop in academic performance,
- sudden bursts of anger
- asking to be left alone
- unexplained bruises or injuries
Common traits of a bully
If your child is a bully, he/she may exhibit the following traits:
- a lack of empathy (in general); need for control
- deriving pleasure from pain and suffering of others
- lashes out or attacks before others do
- refuses to play with certain children
- Victim themselves of bullying by a peer, sibling or parent
- persists in unpleasant behaviour even after you have addressed it
- is overly concerned with being popular
- is intolerant of others who are different
- frequently teases or taunts others
- plays aggressive videogames
- hurts animals
How to address bullying
Teach children to do something when they witness bullying. Such as calling an adult for help or coming to the aid of the victim.
Parents should always report cases of bullying to the school. Don’t be afraid to take further action if necessary.
Coach children on how to stand up to a bully. Help your child understand that a bully wants to feel powerful. So if you show emotion and fight back that’s exactly what he/she wants. A victim could potentially diffuse the situation by looking the bully in the eye and responding evenly and firmly. Practice various responses with your child until he/she is confident in handling difficult situations.
What can parents do?
Parents too should model positive behaviour. So guard against gossiping, what you say and how you treat others, as children will pick up on these traits. Be sure to provide a loving and supportive home structure where children feel emotionally safe and cared for.
Talk about bullying in the home and that it’s not acceptable. There are various books and videos that are available from the library. They can be of great help if you’re not sure how to address the subject.
Teach your child appropriate social skills. Role play different scenarios with your child. Scenarios such as how to join a game at school, and make new friends. Show they why it’s important to share and wait their turn. How to deal with conflict, ways of showing others respect and that you care for them etc. These are all ways to help build self-esteem.
“As parents equip themselves and their children with the right skills, we can help create a future free from bullying and peer victimisation. Additionally, policymakers and healthcare professionals should be aware of the close link between bullying and mental health when they implement prevention and treatment interventions,” reiterates Mugjenker.
If you are a victim of bullying and don’t know who to turn to, contact Pharma Dynamics’ toll-free helpline on 0800 205 026. Trained counsellors are on call from 8am to 8pm, seven days a week. For additional support, visit www.letstalkmh.co.za
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