I’m pretty sure that most women in this world want a daughter. A little mini‐me to have tea parties and princess dress ups with… To teach about life, love and laughter… A little girl to love and cherish; to raise to be strong, confident and independent. I know I did.
Hi, welcome to Mommy in Motion! I am Annie, also known as Mommy to two boys… Being a mom of two boys means I am always in motion! I look so forward to sharing with you all! I’m starting with a list of things I would share with my little girl, if I had had one.
Before we had kids, Hubby Byren and I discussed our expectations. We decided that we would only have two kids, regardless of their genders. So, after having two boys, I wonder what it would’ve been like to have a little girl as well. Don’t get me wrong, I love my boys with all my heart! But I feel like my heart will always yearn for what might have been.
A few months ago, I started fixating again on wanting another child and what it would be like to have a daughter. What her name would be? What she would look like? Would she be a girly girl or a tomboy? What would she want to study one day? What life lessons would I teach her? (I know I probably sound completely insane when I just said that we’re not planning on having more kids.)
But I found myself drawing up a list… A list of things that I would share with my little girl, if I had one.
- Your brothers will always protect you.
- Don’t let fear hold you back and dictate your life.
- Painful honesty is always better than messy dishonesty.
- Remember that not everyone will think and see things the way you do.
- If you can’t be yourself around them, they’re not really your friends.
- Don’t let anyone push you around.
- If you find yourself feeling uncomfortable in any situation, don’t be afraid to leave.
- Don’t accept things to avoid drama.
- Don’t just listen to people, hear them.
- Never let anyone make choices for you.
- Don’t let anyone define who you are, but you.
- Don’t dress the way fashion magazines tell you to, find or create your own style.
- Find your voice and use it proudly.
- Smile as much and as often as you can. But don’t smile if you don’t mean it.
- Surround yourself with positive and inspirational people.
- Be blind to gender, race, religious beliefs and sexuality.
- Make a Bucket List and do the things you want to.
- Find your passion and pursue it.
- Don’t take photos of everything, live in the moments.
- Read books. Lose yourself in imagination.
- Make wishes and believe in magic.
- Find beauty in everything. Where one sees a weed, another sees a flower.
- Go on adventures. Travel the world.
- Go skinny‐dipping.
- Your success is yours alone.
- Never pass over the opportunity to sleep more.
- Be cheesy. We need more humour in this serious world.
- Don’t erase the times you’ll feel sad. You’ll appreciate all the good times even more.
- Help others in any way you can.
- If it feeds your soul and moves your feet, who cares about what type of music you listen to?
- Go to a concert at least once in your life.
- Dance like no one is watching, and even when everyone is watching.
- Please watch How I Met Your Mother, The Flash and Fringe.
- It’s okay if you’re not interested in dresses and make-up. If you decide to wear make-up, I’ll teach you the tricks.
- If a guy buys you dinner or takes you to the movies, you don’t owe him anything.
- Find someone who makes you laugh.
- Find someone who loves you for who you are.
- You don’t need to wear an all-white dress on your wedding day.
- You are beautiful, inside and out.
- Live a #nofilter life.
Do you ever think about these things? Do you ever think about the things you would say to or do with or teach your little girl? Did I miss any big ones?