40 things I would tell my little girl

I’m pretty sure that most women in this world want a daughter. A little mini‐me to have tea parties and princess dress ups with… To teach about life, love and laughter… A little girl to love and cherish; to raise to be strong, confident and independent. I know I did.

Hi, welcome to Mommy in Motion! I am Annie, also known as Mommy to two boys… Being a mom of two boys means I am always in motion! I look so forward to sharing with you all! I’m starting with a list of things I would share with my little girl, if I had had one.

list share little girl

Before we had kids, Hubby Byren and I discussed our expectations. We decided that we would only have two kids, regardless of their genders. So, after having two boys, I wonder what it would’ve been like to have a little girl as well. Don’t get me wrong, I love my boys with all my heart! But I feel like my heart will always yearn for what might have been.

A few months ago, I started fixating again on wanting another child and what it would be like to have a daughter. What her name would be? What she would look like? Would she be a girly girl or a tomboy? What would she want to study one day? What life lessons would I teach her? (I know I probably sound completely insane when I just said that we’re not planning on having more kids.)

But I found myself drawing up a list… A list of things that I would share with my little girl, if I had one.
  1. Your brothers will always protect you.
  2. Don’t let fear hold you back and dictate your life.
  3. Painful honesty is always better than messy dishonesty.
  4. Remember that not everyone will think and see things the way you do.
  5. If you can’t be yourself around them, they’re not really your friends.
  6. Don’t let anyone push you around.
  7. If you find yourself feeling uncomfortable in any situation, don’t be afraid to leave.
  8. Don’t accept things to avoid drama.
  9. Don’t just listen to people, hear them.
  10. Never let anyone make choices for you.
  11. Don’t let anyone define who you are, but you.
  12. Don’t dress the way fashion magazines tell you to, find or create your own style.
  13. Find your voice and use it proudly.
  14. Smile as much and as often as you can. But don’t smile if you don’t mean it.
  15. Surround yourself with positive and inspirational people.
  16. Be blind to gender, race, religious beliefs and sexuality.
  17. Make a Bucket List and do the things you want to.
  18. Find your passion and pursue it.
  19. Don’t take photos of everything, live in the moments.
  20. Read books. Lose yourself in imagination.

    little girl reading

  21. Make wishes and believe in magic.
  22. Find beauty in everything. Where one sees a weed, another sees a flower.
  23. Go on adventures. Travel the world.
  24. Go skinny‐dipping.
  25. Your success is yours alone.
  26. Never pass over the opportunity to sleep more.
  27. Be cheesy. We need more humour in this serious world.
  28. Don’t erase the times you’ll feel sad. You’ll appreciate all the good times even more.
  29. Help others in any way you can.
  30. If it feeds your soul and moves your feet, who cares about what type of music you listen to?
  31. Go to a concert at least once in your life.
  32. Dance like no one is watching, and even when everyone is watching.
  33. Please watch How I Met Your Mother, The Flash and Fringe.
  34. It’s okay if you’re not interested in dresses and make-up. If you decide to wear make-up, I’ll teach you the tricks.
  35. If a guy buys you dinner or takes you to the movies, you don’t owe him anything.
  36. Find someone who makes you laugh.
  37. Find someone who loves you for who you are.
  38. You don’t need to wear an all-white dress on your wedding day.
  39. You are beautiful, inside and out.
  40. Live a #nofilter life.

Do you ever think about these things? Do you ever think about the things you would say to or do with or teach your little girl? Did I miss any big ones?

Even though this is the first official Mommy in Motion column, Annie shared a beautiful article she wrote with us a few months ago titled “What I wish my husband knew before our firstborn“.





Anastasiya (Annie) Meintjes is a young Russian mommy of two adorable little boys living in Joburg. You can follow Annie's adventures as a mommy, wife and woman at her blog Anniemotion.

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