Do your children moan and whine when asked to assist you in and around the house and garden? Does it seem like a constant nag to get them to complete the smallest task? If you assign your children household chores, do they simply avoid doing them until you yell and hand out punishments? If you feel you are having this problem, here is some advice that you may want to consider.
When you look back on your own childhood, you may remember that you were probably in the same boat as your children are now and how you hated doing chores. Why? Many parents have ruled with what was known as the “iron hand” of autocracy to ensure discipline. However the majority of new parents have substituted that unhealthy approach and adopted a more modern parenting approach with a more respectful means for rearing children. However when you remove any fear from raising your children, you ultimately leave more room for strong opinions, feelings and conflict; all these things hamper efficiency.
So I guess you wondering how on earth you manage to get children to partake in required household chores. Well, if you are making use of a more democratic method of parenting in your home, then the secret to getting chores done is to continue your style of parenting into their chores. Inevitably establishing things in advance, including their own opinions and unique ideas, as well as establishing written and verbal agreements with regard to what is required of them while completing their chores. This also means that you as the parent will need to use respect in order to ensure they follow through with their chore when they begin to fall short.
Get the family together to discuss a chores list that you have compiled, having taken their ages into consideration. Listen to what your children’s ideas are and when they intend to get the chores done. Compose a ridged schedule that each member in the family agrees upon and get each one to sign in on it. If your kids are particularly resistant and stubborn, delay the conversation until another time. If your children are still very young, a star chart can be used to create enthusiasm with small rewards at the end of certain stages.
Assigning chores will usually be a great deal more effective when all of your family members buy into this. You will find it is also important to assign a date, time, and schedule for when it is expected to be completed. It is very important to make precise limitations and boundaries when getting your kids to partake and complete chores as well as tasks.
As soon as you see that one of your kids has not properly completed an agreed and decided upon task, do NOT entice, nag or scold. As a matter of fact, avoid communicating at all! You simply need to find your child who has not completed the chore and gently lead them directly to the place of the uncompleted task. If your child shows resistance and begins fighting your guidance, something in your parent-child relationship needs to urgently be addressed.
In conclusion, what is the most appropriate age to begin getting your children involved in household chores? The answer is that kids who are as young as toddlers and preschoolers may do some simple chores, yet the chores assigned to such young children should be age appropriate and depend largely on the ability. However, getting kids as little as this to complete household tasks and chores usually requires that those tasks assigned be very few and simple but contain fun, and most importantly praise when they are successfully completed. Chores become habit and the sooner learnt the better.